As a coach and personal trainer, I encounter many people with self-esteem issues. This is so common. At one time or another in life, someone's either said something to us (that we took to heart and believed it to be true, misinterpreted it or just said negative things about ourselves) and now it's engrained and a part of us. Be happy to know you can change those thoughts.
I believe everyone needs to boost their confidence every now and then, especially if we want to be more positive, productive, successful and in line with our goals and dreams.
I have a few different techniques I teach to my clients.
First: Always focus on the positive.
- What are you grateful for?
- What do you have going on in your life right now that's great?
- If you can't think of anything right now then what has been great for you in the past?
- Did you win an award?
- Did you laugh so hard with your best friend your face hurt?
- Do you have songs that bring back positive memories?
The next technique follows this quote:
" What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people."
--- Dr. Wayne Dyer
Alleluia! I agree.
Second: When people tell you something that feels like a criticism, try to really look at it.
Sometimes others see something we can't or don't' want to see in ourselves. Everyone has a different opinion, take what you can and use it and toss the rest away. Just don't let a negative comment affect who or how you are in this world.
Keep your confidence in tact through it all. Everyone is different and there will always be someone who does not feel or think the same way you do; so for those people – what they think is none of your business. Learn to take constructive criticism without letting it affect your being.
Until a few years ago, I couldn't walk out of the house without eyeliner and mascara. Why? Because I was brought up by a mom who wore lipstick and eyeliner until right before she passed, literally. She would not leave the house without it. She couldn't even see to put the eyeliner on correctly anymore and she still put it on.
Having learned this throughout my entire life, I was very self-conscious and vain. When I didn't wear makeup, she would say I looked like a twelve year old boy. Others love me without make up and I don't need it all day, every day.
I don't care anymore but not in a bad way; I don't feel like I need it to be me that's all. It takes learning to love ourselves as we are sometimes and I know, I know, it's not easy but we can do it. If I can do it, you can too.
Third: Be sure to share some positive thoughts with yourself throughout each day.
We're quick to share constant negative thoughts all day long. Negative self-talk is such an issue within us. If we could start patting ourselves on the back, when we do things right, we'd see we do much more right than wrong.
We, this includes me, tend to beat ourselves up when we do one thing we perceive as wrong (even if it's not) and then it makes all the confidence and good stuff null and void. Start paying attention to all the good you put out there into the world.
By reading this article you want more self-confidence and believe you can have it. YOU CAN! Be true to yourself and love yourself as much as others love you. You are a good person; own it!
If you are experiencing any kind of self-esteem issues and need help, give me a call or contact me through my website.
Copyright © 2011 Marion Licchiello-Lenz
Marion Licchiello-Lenz is a Writer, Self Empowerment Coach and an Intuitive Coach. She blogs for the Poughkeepsie Journal about getting motivated, staying positive, and getting fit.
In addition, you can find her as a feature writer at Country Courier magazine. Her weekly articles follow her accomplishments, trials and tribulations with being, getting and staying healthy - mind, body and spirit.
For coaching sessions or intuitive readings (with or without coaching and guidance), or if you have any questions feel free to call Marion at (845) 596-2990
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