Are You Growing Spiritually?

The Growth That Follows

As we go through life things that we deem "bad" happen to us. When I say "bad" I now see that over time I have "learned" the "badness" in certain things. For example: A young student is considered "bad" when he or she has energy and cannot sit still or prevent his or herself from talking or exploring on their own.

From what I know, that was once called "power" and the definition of "power" as I know it is "The ability to act and the capacity to suffer." Yet this young student is admonished or drugged until he or she can "sit quietly" like the other students.

In this scenario, are we not rewarding inaction and passiveness when so much action is desperately needed in the World today? Why not get the students out and moving for a couple of hours until they are relaxed enough to quietly sit and learn with a nice adrenaline rush just fading and clearing their minds? The student in my mind is obviously healthy, strong and robust. This to me is a "good" thing.

We also are taught that manure is bad or certain words and parts of our bodies are bad if they are exposed. So many people are hurt and killed because of words and other "bad" things that it is insane! Yet we can watch someone using "bad" words in a movie for example, focusing on somebody else and not be affected?

Words should not have negative power over anyone and it should be taught that the action following the utterance of words is the only real "thing" that is happening! I would love to make a video with someone swearing at me and taunting me as I remain in a very calm and peaceful state. Is this not the very reaction that can prevent wars? Why is this not taught as one of the most important aspect when dealing with words?

There is another form of "bad" as in someone's "death" or sickness or a loss of material wealth or goods. Now as I see it, man has created the word "death" defined basically as end of an organism or being. When these events occur there is no focus about the cleansing attributes they have.

Where is the talk about a new beginning, rebirth or clarity in understanding life? It seems to me that a true feeling, happiness, extreme happiness can only be experienced if some sort of loss or perceived loss occurs. Is this not the reason to become mortal? Think about it. With everlasting life and no chance of "dying" or of getting hurt what would stir us into action, and or to a higher emotion or emotions?

As immortals we have no knowledge of hurt and loss and so the emotional pendulum cannot swing that far in the direction of happiness or bliss. Part of what life means to me is to forget immortality and to experience frailty, pain, loss and all of those so-called "negative" feelings. I did say part because of course as the pendulum swings the other way the happiness and growth that follows is "painfully" joyous.

I get such joy over not having a "real" job and being able to hug my 18 month old and 5 year old boys several times a day! I feel little things that some people ignore and I feel them to an extreme state for some reason! I really think it is because I realize just how fragile life really is and that the pendulum can swing either way at any moment and I thank God for that also.

Who would do anything if they thought they had an eternity to do it? I do believe we return to being immortal and we have just for now chosen to forget enough about the existence of immortality to give us the full spectrum of emotions that we really need to grow! The growth that follows is beyond what we can perceive here on Earth so we go on to a rebirth, journey and growth!

Here on Earth we learn true happiness and how to let go of hanging on to any and all things. We must at some point let go of our bodies and what more proof do you need that this is a lesson to be learned and a freedom and rebirth to be experienced?

Copyright 2009 Jesse Barkasy
I am a stay at home dad who at 36 years old decided to quit my job with the NASDAQ Stock Market when my first son was born July 25th, 2004 (5 years ago). I could not bear the pain of being away from Christopher and my current 18-month-old boy Jack everyday for that long. I have been a student of such teachers as Leo Buscaglia, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Anthony Robbins, Kaye and Edwarda O'bara, Mother Teresa and many more who have blessed me with their books and teachings.