Father's Day to me is just as special as Mother's Day. Without either one, we would not be here.
Each parent has something to give and sometimes one parent ends up playing both roles and I happen to be one of those parents.
I completely raised my son by myself, even though I wanted him to have a father figure in his life. There were some things that were hard to share and talk about, especially me being the opposite sex.
I can remember how difficult it was to answer some of the questions of the male anatomy, which I wished his dad could have explained. Laughs*
I can remember my son, at the age of four at the time, asked me, "Mom can we call my wee wee something else?" I took a deep breath and responded, "Ummm, just call him your buddy. He replied, "Buddy?" I said yeah well he hangs around with you all the time. Shoot, at the time I figured that was better then using the real name for a four year old or was it? All I know is that I did the best I could raising him.
Last year I had to have a major surgery and I have always been independent. It hurt my pride that I had to rely on others for help. I can remember my son saying, " Mom you took care of me for 21 years, now it's my turn."
It touched me to hear him say that; everything I had done for him he had acknowledged.
Children don't forget things when they are growing up, especially those who have provided for them. Today he is twenty-two years old and going to college.
My father played a very important role in my life and when I look back on my childhood, he was my total inspiration. Most of everything I know today, he has taught me or gave me the strength and encouragement while walking on those stepping stones in life.
He reminds me to never give up on my dreams because one day, they could be my own reality. He has taught me that laughter, kindness and love are more valuable than gold and that when you give you get back ten fold.
Happy Father's Day to those who are there to support and love their children. Happy Father's Day to all the mothers out there who have to play a father's role and to all the fathers who have to play a mother's role. Raising children has never been easy but it takes a special parent to make a difference in a child's life.
This poem is dedicated to my father:
Dad, I think about all the things in my life which you have given to me.
You taught me how to fix things that are broken and how to live responsibly.
You even taught me how to be a mechanic by checking the motor oil in my car.
You taught me that money doesnt grow on trees and how to save coins in a jar.
You taught me how to draw animals from numbers and you let me be creative.
You taught me to respect my elders and told folklores of many natives.
You taught me to always be honest and to help others who are in need.
You taught me how to view life and how crooked people can be.
You taught me how to catch a fish and how to bait my own hook.
You taught me all your kitchen secrets including how to cook...
You taught me that every day I will always learn something new.
You taught me that if I needed anything I could always count on you...
You taught me to think positive and to always look ahead.
You taught me to how to use all those handy tools in your shed.
You taught me how to live life to its fullest and to always smile.
You taught me that if it is meant to be then fate would always allow.
You taught me how to appreciate even the little things.
You taught me to be me and encouraged me to spread my wings.
Dad, you have taught me so many wonderful things
And you have inspired me in so many ways.... to live, love and laugh everyday. You are everything that I am today and I just wanted to say...
Thanks for loving me and Happy Father's Day!!!!
Copyright © 2009 Cecilia Bailey
One parent sometimes has to play both roles in a child's life. I was one of those parents who had to play the father and mother in raising my child.